ABOUT LISA
Your Love Life Starts With Loving You.
-Lisa Velazquez XO
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Hey,
I'm Lisa
I BELIEVE EVERYONE HAS A LOVE STORY AND I GOT A LOVE STORY TO TELL..
It's not that Disney or rom-com one.
That ONE love story that changed everything.
I was heartbroken, drained and just love burned after a breakup that changes everything.
See, when you invest your all in a relationship, the one that you thought was going to go the distance, it just hits different.
This cosmopolitan world harbors enough stress, especially for women like us who don’t settle for anything less.
I’m Lisa Velazquez, a proud Puerto Rican woman who grew up in Brooklyn, New York. As a bonafide city girl, I learned early on how to tread a fast-paced life. Along with that, I’ve also learned the value of maintaining healthy relationships with my family and friends while achieving my goals. I’m what they call the go-to girl for advice.
My Story
A lot of women say they would love for a man to fight for their relationship and I was one of those women. But what I realized was that sometimes people are fighting to get you to just believe what they’re saying; not to actually be with you. They’re not standing for the relationship. And you’re just waiting for them to. I swear that was it. The going back and forth of our relationship to the point where I couldn’t even call it a relationship. I just called it “things we had between us”. Connection, passion, understanding each other, big visions for what we wanted to do in the world and our community. He was the man I thought was going to be my life partner and we were going to create a family together. But it finally got to a point where I couldn’t see where he ended and I began. It was a lot of broken agreements in a relationship that I should’ve ended sooner. I chose to end things (without discussing it with him), because our conversations were me trying to get answers and work things out and him gaslighting. This just leads to what my sister would call “a whole lot of nothing”. And it was evident (at least to me) that it was over. I noticed he was ok with the way things were going; all the back and forth. But I wasn’t. I kept hoping we would go back to the way things were at the beginning of our relationship. I wanted stability, companionship and growth again. In the end, we were just not right for each other. So I ended it during my last semester of graduate school in April 2007. One night, all alone in my Bronx apartment in the dark. I said to myself out loud,
“I want a family. I want to get married. He’s showing me he doesn’t want those things.
I love him. But I love me more”.
And in that moment, I let go of the dream. The plan we made together for our lives. Then I cried an ocean. Choosing to detach from him felt like an emotional surgery (that I was performing on myself without anesthesia).
“I want a family. I want to get married. He’s showing me he doesn’t want those things.
I love him. But I love me more”.
And in that moment, I let go of the dream. The plan we made together for our lives. Then I cried an ocean. Choosing to detach from him felt like an emotional surgery (that I was performing on myself without anesthesia).
I was doing everything I could to focus during finals, finishing my internship, decluttering my apartment and my heart. My mother came to visit me and there were times where I just hugged her and cried; not saying much of anything. I was so grateful to have her there. She saw me and just loved me for who I am.
As I healed, I journaled a lot and created activities from it. I became healthier physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I did deep self reflection and reviewed my choices and beliefs about men, relationships and myself. Specifically, where I broke agreements with myself that led to being with my ex as long as I did. I reconnected with my self value by creating my own love values and standards; all the things that mattered to me in relationships and how I wanted live them with a partner. I started to love by example in order to teach men how to treat me, again. Seeing men for who they truly were based on their consistent patterns of behavior; not their words or sporadic grand gestures. Because I learned they will just fall back into their patterns when they’re back in your good graces. But I didn’t stick around to allow it anymore.
I also began re-learning to say no…again and again. And courageously walking away from men who didn’t honor or agree with my boundaries and the type of committed relationship I wanted and needed.
While healing and doing my own inner work for personal growth, I continued to live a rich fulfilling life and developed amazing healthy relationships. I never gave up on me, love and men, before and after that relationship. I reconnected with my power by taking responsibility for my choices. Not punishing myself in any way. But instead recognizing my power in my ability to respond in challenging situations that didn’t align with my emotional well-being.
As I healed, I journaled a lot and created activities from it. I became healthier physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I did deep self reflection and reviewed my choices and beliefs about men, relationships and myself. Specifically, where I broke agreements with myself that led to being with my ex as long as I did. I reconnected with my self value by creating my own love values and standards; all the things that mattered to me in relationships and how I wanted live them with a partner. I started to love by example in order to teach men how to treat me, again. Seeing men for who they truly were based on their consistent patterns of behavior; not their words or sporadic grand gestures. Because I learned they will just fall back into their patterns when they’re back in your good graces. But I didn’t stick around to allow it anymore.
I also began re-learning to say no…again and again. And courageously walking away from men who didn’t honor or agree with my boundaries and the type of committed relationship I wanted and needed.
While healing and doing my own inner work for personal growth, I continued to live a rich fulfilling life and developed amazing healthy relationships. I never gave up on me, love and men, before and after that relationship. I reconnected with my power by taking responsibility for my choices. Not punishing myself in any way. But instead recognizing my power in my ability to respond in challenging situations that didn’t align with my emotional well-being.
A lot of women say they would love for a man to fight for their relationship and I was one of those women. But what I realized was that sometimes people are fighting to get you to just believe what they’re saying; not to actually be with you.
They’re not standing for the relationship. And you’re just waiting for them to. I swear that was it.
The going back and forth of our relationship to the point where I couldn’t even call it a relationship. I just called it “things we had between us”. Connection, passion, understanding each other, big visions for what we wanted to do in the world and our community. He was the man I thought was going to be my life partner and we were going to create a family together. But it finally got to a point where I couldn’t see where he ended and I began.
The going back and forth of our relationship to the point where I couldn’t even call it a relationship. I just called it “things we had between us”. Connection, passion, understanding each other, big visions for what we wanted to do in the world and our community. He was the man I thought was going to be my life partner and we were going to create a family together. But it finally got to a point where I couldn’t see where he ended and I began. It was a lot of broken agreements in a relationship that I should’ve ended sooner. I chose to end things (without discussing it with him), because our conversations were me trying to get answers and work things out and him gaslighting. This just leads to what my sister would call “a whole lot of nothing”. And it was evident (at least to me) that it was over. I noticed he was ok with the way things were going; all the back and forth. But I wasn’t. I kept hoping we would go back to the way things were at the beginning of our relationship. I wanted stability, companionship and growth again. In the end, we were just not right for each other. So I ended it during my last semester of graduate school in April 2007. One night, all alone in my Bronx apartment in the dark. I said to myself out loud,
“I want a family. I want to get married. He’s showing me he doesn’t want those things.
I love him. But I love me more”.
And in that moment, I let go of the dream. The plan we made together for our lives. Then I cried an ocean. Choosing to detach from him felt like an emotional surgery (that I was performing on myself without anesthesia).
I also began re-learning to say no…again and again. And courageously walking away from men who didn’t honor or agree with my boundaries and the type of committed relationship I wanted and needed.
While healing and doing my own inner work for personal growth, I continued to live a rich fulfilling life and developed amazing healthy relationships. I never gave up on me, love and men, before and after that relationship. I reconnected with my power by taking responsibility for my choices. Not punishing myself in any way. But instead recognizing my power in my ability to respond in challenging situations that didn’t align with my emotional well-being.
“I want a family. I want to get married. He’s showing me he doesn’t want those things.
I love him. But I love me more”.
And in that moment, I let go of the dream. The plan we made together for our lives. Then I cried an ocean. Choosing to detach from him felt like an emotional surgery (that I was performing on myself without anesthesia).
I also began re-learning to say no…again and again. And courageously walking away from men who didn’t honor or agree with my boundaries and the type of committed relationship I wanted and needed.
While healing and doing my own inner work for personal growth, I continued to live a rich fulfilling life and developed amazing healthy relationships. I never gave up on me, love and men, before and after that relationship. I reconnected with my power by taking responsibility for my choices. Not punishing myself in any way. But instead recognizing my power in my ability to respond in challenging situations that didn’t align with my emotional well-being.
I was doing everything I could to focus during finals, finishing my internship, decluttering my apartment and my heart. My mother came to visit me and there were times where I just hugged her and cried; not saying much of anything. I was so grateful to have her there. She saw me and just loved me for who I am.
As I healed, I journaled a lot and created activities from it. I became healthier physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I did deep self reflection and reviewed my choices and beliefs about men, relationships and myself. Specifically, where I broke agreements with myself that led to being with my ex as long as I did. I reconnected with my self value by creating my own love values and standards; all the things that mattered to me in relationships and how I wanted live them with a partner. I started to love by example in order to teach men how to treat me, again. Seeing men for who they truly were based on their consistent patterns of behavior; not their words or sporadic grand gestures. Because I learned they will just fall back into their patterns when they’re back in your good graces. But I didn’t stick around to allow it anymore.
I LOVE astrology and following the cycles of the moon.
I am a Cancerian Sun. Scorpio Moon and a Libra Rising.
I'm an intutive and empath. I can literally read and absorb people's energy.
I was born to be a tranformational love coach. Because I thrive in supporting to unravel that ties that bond you toxic patterns in love.
All you need is support and guidance to align on your love journey.
Fun Facts About Me.
I was doing everything I could to focus during finals, finishing my internship, decluttering my apartment and my heart. My mother came to visit me and there were times where I just hugged her and cried; not saying much of anything. I was so grateful to have her there. She saw me and just loved me for who I am.
As I healed, I journaled a lot and created activities from it. I became healthier physically, emotionally, and spiritually. I did deep self reflection and reviewed my choices and beliefs about men, relationships and myself. Specifically, where I broke agreements with myself that led to being with my ex as long as I did. I reconnected with my self value by creating my own love values and standards; all the things that mattered to me in relationships and how I wanted live them with a partner. I started to love by example in order to teach men how to treat me, again. Seeing men for who they truly were based on their consistent patterns of behavior; not their words or sporadic grand gestures. Because I learned they will just fall back into their patterns when they’re back in your good graces. But I didn’t stick around to allow it anymore.
I LOVE astrology and following the cycles of the moon.
I am a Cancerian Sun. Scorpio Moon and a Libra Rising.
I'm an intutive and empath. I can literally read and absorb people's energy.
I was born to be a tranformational love coach. Because I thrive in supporting to unravel that ties that bond you toxic patterns in love.
All you need is support and guidance to align on your love journey.
The Glow Up is My Lifestyle
For me, to glow is to connect to your sensuality and be the woman who lights herself up from the inside out.
Because heartbreak, trauma, or an unlucky phase would never rule my life unless I let them.
So I always me on my to-do list. And pour into my cup to keep in overflowing with my vibrant energy.
This is your opportunity to become the author of your love story!
All you need is support and guidance to align on your love journey.
Professional Bio
Lisa Velazquez is an Intuitive Love Coach & Founder of Lisa Talks Love.
She helps passionate single women get ready for the love they desire from a place of self value.
Lisa offers this guidance through her self study love and dating courses, group love coaching program, and self love and sensuality retreats for successful single female entrepreneurs. She graduated from Columbia University with a Masters in Clinical Psychology and is both a Certified Sex Therapist and Certified Sex Educator.
Her mission is to cultivate a community of powerful women around the world who live well, date wise and love sexy. As a thought leader with a global vision, her message Love By Example embodies the belief that when you choose to stand for your self value, you can change your life and change the world.
Lisa is a highly sought-after expert for her inside scoop on love culture, modern dating trends and hot healthy relationships. She has been a featured expert on numerous podcasts, magazines, books, telesummits, programs and, conferences.
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